Discover your attachment style to have better relationships.

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Decode the languages of love

Are your relationships struggling to thrive?

Do you find it hard to maintain healthy long-term relationships? Do you often attract emotionally unavailable or suffocating partners? Are you struggling to find the right partner despite your best efforts?

If your relationships are stuck in a negative cycle, an insecure attachment style is to blame. Your attachment style can make your relationships feel challenging and cause you to experience anxiety, fear, or avoidance, which can prevent you from experiencing genuinely satisfying relationships.

Your attachment style can also determine the success or failure of your relationship with your partner and affect other parts of your life, such as relationships with friends, family, and coworkers.

Everyone has an attachment style!

What are attachment styles?

Our experiences during childhood have a significant impact on how we perceive the world and interact with others. The emotional connection we share with our parents plays a crucial role in shaping our behavior patterns, which persist into adulthood. These patterns operate subconsciously and guide our relationships with others. Depending on the behavior patterns that we develop, we may have either a secure or insecure attachment style.

[Having an insecure attachment style is not a diagnosis, disorder, or mental health issue, and is quite common among adults. ]

Do you resonate with any of these love styles?

Are you anxious in relationships?

Signs that you may have an anxious attachment style:

Do you feel excessively clingy or needy in your relationships?
Do you tend to overthink everything your partner says and does?
Are you someone who tends to give more than you receive and often puts other people's needs before your own?
Do you find it difficult to trust your partner?

Are you fearful in relationships?

Signs that you may have a fearful attachment style:

Do you often switch between being overly affectionate and distant?
Do you find it hard to trust your partner, even when there is no reason not to?
Do you have a strong desire to be close to someone, but also feel the need to push them away?
Do you tend to experience intense emotions in your relationships?

Are you avoidant in relationships?

Signs that you may have an avoidant attachment style:

Do you fear commitment or being vulnerable with your partner?
Do you tend to pull away when someone gets too close to you?
Do you feel overwhelmed when dealing with intense emotions?
Do you find yourself frequently looking for flaws or negative traits in your partner?

Have Better Relationships

NAVIGATING THE WORLD OF RELATIONSHIPS CAN FEEL COMPLEX AND DIFFICULT

It can be frustrating when we don't receive the love we crave. We often find ourselves stuck in relationships that are unfulfilling and negative cycles that seem to never end. Sometimes, we end up with people who are not compatible with us, and we start to believe that we will never find someone who truly loves us.

BUT WHAT IF YOU COULD EXPERIENCE A DEEP CONNECTION AND HAVE THAT FULFILLING LOVE YOU DESIRE?

What if you could spend more time feeling joy and satisfaction in your relationships and less time feeling frustrated? The good news is that the attachment style you grew up with can be changed! You can learn to transform an insecure attachment style to create a secure relationship with your ideal partner.

Want to know how?

Introducing

The Secure Love style Program

This is a 90-Day 1:1 personalized coaching program with Decoded Love's Coach Roxy. The program aims to transform your attachment style from insecure to secure in just a few weeks and help you become the most authentic version of yourself. You will learn to decode the languages of love and understand the rules of relationships. By the end of the program, you will go from feeling frustrated and unloved to feeling empowered and capable of creating a secure relationship that will thrive.

Throughout the 12-week course, you will learn various tools and techniques to help you transform the way you approach love and relationships at a deep subconscious level. The program is designed to fit your unique personality and love style. The objective is to change your mindset so that you can navigate relationships in a way that builds long-lasting and fulfilling connections.

The program will help you to:

Develop self-awareness and bring about positive change from within.
Gain insights into your attachment style and understand your relationship patterns better.
Identify the type of people you are attracting and are attracted to.
Address emotional wounds that impact your perception of love.
Heal core wounds at the root level to promote lasting change.

Become Secure

Overcome disempowering beliefs and rewrite your internal dialogue.
Learn healthy communication skills to build a stronger relationship with your partner.
Discover ways to meet your deepest needs from your partner and yourself.
Create clear and effective boundaries to protect your time and energy.
Learn about your unique personality traits and understand personality compatibility.

Benefits to coaching

Benefits of coaching while single

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Overcome a breakup and move on from a past relationship.
Navigate the dating world by learning to recognize red and green flags.
Identify a potential partner’s attachment style and understand how it might impact your relationship.
Understand who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you.
Save time and energy by finding people who are compatible with you.
Understand the different stages of relationships that happen after dating and learn how to navigate through each of them.

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Understand your partner's attachment style and personality type and learn how you both give and receive love.
Identify which of the six different stages of a relationship you are currently in and learn how to navigate through them.
Learn about your trigger patterns and how to regulate your emotions when you are triggered, as well as your partner's triggers.
Build better communication skills to resolve conflicts and spend more time getting your needs met.
Stop the cycle of making up and breaking up by feeling more fulfilled in the relationship or empowered to move on from it.

"I met someone organically and I wanted to take things slow. I am secured and he is fearful avoidant. I had little knowledge about FA's so I asked Roxy for some advice on how to navigate this new relationship. It has been 8 months now and we are stronger than ever. Roxy gave me some vital information on how to understand FA's better without violating my own boundaries. In turn, she has helped him understand himself better and be able to recognize his triggers. Because of her help we are able to better communicate our needs and strengthen our relationship." - Nanea A.

Become the best version of yourself

WEEK 1 & 2

Gain insight into your attachment style, core wounds, relationship triggers, and limiting beliefs. Learn about your subconscious mind and the meaning you attach to painful situations.

Week 3 & 4

WEEK 1 & 2

Discover your personality type and needs, and overcome subconscious beliefs that hinder you from receiving your needs from others.

Week 5 & 6

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

Gain insight into how your core wounds impact your needs. Learn how to express your needs to others and be vulnerable without taking things personally.

Week 7 & 8

Week 11 & 12

Week 5 & 6

Learn communication skills and strategies for conflict resolution, as well as how to set healthy boundaries and understand the connection between boundaries and wounds.

Week 9 & 10

Week 11 & 12

Identify and replace unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones and learn to regulate your nervous system.

Week 11 & 12

Learn about your relationship shadow, uncover your emotional patterns, and establish a healthy connection to your emotions.

What Clients Had to Say

"My partner and I have improved our communication skills and better understand each other. He's a DA (Dismissive-Avoidant) and I'm AP (Anxious-Preoccupied), so we have learned to identify how we might trigger each other and worked on our wounds. As a result, our relationship has significantly improved."

"I've been to a therapist, but they didn't teach me about attachment theory or how to reprogram my subconscious mind. Learning about these things helped me make more progress with my issues than all the time I spent just talking about them with my therapist."

"Learning about attachment theory has been a life-changing experience for me. I realized how my subconscious programming and attachment style caused me to pursue emotionally unavailable men repeatedly. Now that I'm focusing on becoming more secure, I'm less likely to be attracted to these types of men."

"I struggled to move on after a difficult breakup, but gaining insight into my own needs and beliefs brought relief, and while it was still challenging, the pain wasn't all-consuming."

What is the Coaching Process?

Start with a free discovery call

Once you've filled out an application, we will do a FREE consultation and go over your relationship challenges and goals.

Are we a good fit?

Having the right mindset is crucial to achieving success, so I only accept clients I know I can assist and who are a good match for coaching.

You may be a suitable candidate for coaching if you:

• Are highly motivated to make changes and are willing to step out of your comfort zone.

• Are dedicated to the process and prepared to do the inner work.

• Value personal growth and are willing to invest in yourself.

• Are open to feedback and new learning methods.

Moving Forward

If you are a good fit and ready to proceed, we will meet once a week on a video call to start the program with a few discovery sessions. Throughout the course, there will be homework and other resources available to you, and I will be available via email or text in between each session to provide continuous support as you work towards achieving your goals.

Frequently Asked Questions

Please reach me at Decodedlove@yahoo.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.

Who is coaching for?

Coaching is for those who:

Want a fast, solution-oriented way towards growth and healing.
Want structure and guidance to achieve desired relationship goals.
Want to create change in a short amount of time.
Want tools and techniques to transform an insecure attachment style.
Want an alternative approach to talk therapy.

What are the differences between therapy and coaching?

Therapists can diagnose and treat people with mental illness, disorders, and trauma. Therapy is slower-paced and focuses on healing from the past.

Coaches do not diagnose or treat mental illness. Coaching is generally for people who are not in significant mental health distress or have already had some experience with therapy or counseling. Coaching is fast-paced, goal-focused, and solution-oriented. It focuses on the future and getting people where they want to be.

Q: What are the benefits of relationship coaching if I'm in therapy?

While therapy is an essential tool for healing, it can be challenging to revisit traumatic experiences from the past. Reopening old memories can be a painful and traumatic process. In contrast, coaching sessions do not require discussing past traumas.

These sessions aim to help you deal with your present challenges and pain points and move forward by focusing on the future. Unlike therapy, coaching focuses on the "how" rather than the "why." The goal is to identify root issues and find solutions rather than continuously discuss the problem. Coaching, while you're in therapy, can help you to achieve your relationship goals much faster.

What is your approach to relationship coaching?

My approach is based on Integrated Attachment Theory, NLP, and Personality Typology. I use different techniques to help people identify their attachment style and the core wounds, needs, beliefs, and emotional patterns specific to their style. My focus is on reprogramming limiting beliefs and maladaptive thinking that exist in the subconscious mind, which is responsible for 95% of our behaviors. In addition to attachment theory, I also use MBTI personality typing to help individuals discover their unique personality traits and how they impact their relationships.

Where & when do the sessions take place?

The sessions are scheduled to take place over Zoom in the Hawaii-Aleutian Time Zone (HST; UTC-10:00).

What will you choose?

which path will you take?

There are two different options to getting the love you desire.

Option 1

Continue doing this on your own, hoping things will improve one day, but feel uncertain.
Stay frustrated not knowing how to get the love you desire.
Keep looking for the right partner but continue attracting the wrong ones.
Continue to search for relationship advice on YouTube or Instagram without seeing any significant improvement.
Try to figure out how general relationship advice applies to your unique situation.
Stay on this journey alone without anyone who understands or supports you.

Option 2

Follow a scientifically proven system that's worked for hundreds of people.
Understand the exact roadblocks you are dealing with in your specific situation.
Learn how to create change on a subconscious level to have long-term lasting effects.
Get coached by someone who has transformed their own attachment style and can relate to your struggles.
Stop wasting time and energy trying to figure things out on your own.
Invest in a program that will guide you and continuously give you the support you need.

Welcome!

Build Better Relationships with Decoded Love

Decode the languages of love

Are your relationships struggling to thrive?

What are attachment styles?

Do you resonate with any of these love styles?

Want to know your attachment style?

Take this quick 5-minute quiz!

Have Better Relationships

NAVIGATING THE WORLD OF RELATIONSHIPS CAN FEEL COMPLEX AND DIFFICULT

BUT WHAT IF YOU COULD EXPERIENCE A DEEP CONNECTION AND HAVE THAT FULFILLING LOVE YOU DESIRE?

Want to know how?

Introducing

The Secure Love style Program

The program will help you to:

Become Secure

Benefits to coaching

Benefits of coaching while single

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

The Secure Love Style Program Overview

Become the best version of yourself

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 3 & 4

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

Week 7 & 8

Week 11 & 12

Week 5 & 6

Week 9 & 10

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

The Secure Love Style Program Includes:

Your Journey Towards Becoming Secure Starts Here!

testimonials

What Clients Had to Say

What is the Coaching Process?

Start with a free discovery call

Are we a good fit?

Moving Forward

Frequently Asked Questions

Testimonials

What will you choose?

which path will you take?

Option 1

Option 2

Ready to transform your life and relationships?

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